Everyone on this planet has been rejected at least once, and it’s something none of us go unscathed by. 

Even though getting rejected can feel extremely hurtful and, at times, isolating, it’s one of life's biggest blessings. 

Once you reframe your view on rejection and see how it has actually protected you from certain life decisions or opportunities, your life will never be the same! 

Rejection has one of three meanings:

First, what you were going after was meant for someone else. It’s true that no one out there knows us better than we know ourselves. But one missing part of this is the Universe and the forces of life. All we know is what we want, but there could be a reason why something is not meant for us that we cannot see yet. But you know who can? The Universe. Once you begin to trust that if you do not get something you want, it is because it might be for you, you begin to overthink less. 

I completely understand the feeling of being rejected, taking it personally, and making the entire situation about me. I mean, how could I not? But you can look at it from two different angles: 1) this rejection means something about me and my worth, or 2) it means that what I wanted is not for me. 

This is much easier said than done, but finding a new way to look at your rejection that does not place the blame or lack on you can drastically change how you view yourself. 

Second, this rejection means it is not your time yet. Emphasis on the yet. Unlike the first reason, this reason could entail that you need to learn a specific lesson or experience something before you get what you want. And the reason you were rejected is because it is not your time yet to have what you want. 

You can think of it like this: imagine someone winning the lottery, but they have no self-control or money management skills. If they receive a LARGE sum, they may spend it all at once or need help understanding how to properly manage it. If you are meant to win the lottery but find yourself not winning the amount you want, you might have to learn some lessons on financial management or how to handle large amounts of money before winning the lottery. 

It has nothing to do with your worth; it has to do with what you can handle and what you need to do or experience before having what you truly desire. 

The third and final reason you were rejected is that there is something better on the way for you. You know how moms know what is best for their babies, like what foods to eat and who to play with at the playground? The Universe is kind of like that for us now. There are things we cannot see that are happening behind the scenes. And when we want something that is not good for us, the Universe will ensure it does not occur. You might see that as not being good enough, but the Universe sees you as too good for it, so it keeps it from you entirely. 

Nothing in this world is making you believe this about rejection, but it is a way for you to see your life through the lens of self-love. Rejection is a challenging experience to process because we believe it means we are not good enough for something or someone. But what if, instead, you believed that you have the Universe behind you to lead the way and trust that everything happens for a reason? 

Which one would I rather believe? What about you? 

xoxo Sangeetha